Category Archives: My Family

My Special Angel!

Hello again to all my family and friends. I’m stopping in again today to let you all know what is going on in my life! :-)

Can I just say, I love going through all this old stuff and scanning it. Seriously!

Just a couple of days ago I was scanning some cards that I had “saved” from the trash pile at my mother’s house. The same sack that contained some old pictures also contained some old cards and such. There are a lot of invitations to weddings, graduations and other such but there was one that kind of made an impression on me. There were only 12 words written by my Mom but those words meant a lot to me.

When I woke up this morning, there was a song on my mind. It was from the words that my Mom spoke in that card. Just as my wife and I have a song, I suppose that I gathered from this card that my Mom and Dad had a song also. I think my parents, coming from a different generation, were a little shy about showing affection around their children. That’s why we don’t have a lot of memories like that. However, the post card from before and this card show that there was plenty of love between the two of them! Here’s my scans of that card:

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Can you see where those 12 little words showed so much? Well, here’s the video of that song. It was released in 1957, just 4 years after they were married, however this card was fairly recent, probably in the 1990s. After all those years, Dad was still Mom’s special angel!

Wow! :-)

A Cool Discovery And A Little Advice!

It’s been a while since I posted! What can I say, life happens! :-)

Today I would like to share something with my family and any other readers I have. It’s a little advice and a pretty cool discovery.

First, the advice. Never, should I say NEVER, take anything for granted! I found a pile of post cards several years ago. For those in the know, it was shortly after Mom was moved to Dallas. I went next door and was checking what was left and cleaning up some. I found a box in one of the rooms that looked like trash and started to throw it out. Then, I thought about what I had read once from one of my genealogy buddies. I stopped and sifted through the box to make sure that it was truly trash. Boy was I glad I did! I found some pictures in the very bottom. I small bag with maybe 4 or 5 5×7 pictures. I will share those soon. I also found a stack of post cards and grabbed those.

Those post cards have set in a box for all these years. I had looked at them and at the back but there was no writing on them. I thought they might be neat to save for collecting purposes. This past month I started looking at them again. Once again, the same thing. All blank, no writing. Then I found something new. One with some writing on it. When I began to read it, I realized it was my Dad writing to my Mom! The post mark on the card was September 5, 1962, just a couple months before I was born.

The words are not fancy and will not be on the television anytime soon! The lovely part of this is to be able to see a side of my Dad that we didn’t normally see! 1962 – that’s a little over 9 years that they had been married. Dad was still working construction and apparently that job had him in El Paso, Texas at the time. The address was to Mrs. David I. Spangler in Dallas, Texas. Here is the front of the post card …

Dad's Post Card

It’s El Paso’s Ranger Peak Aerial Tramway. I’ve never heard nor seen of it. The only thing I can find for today is Wyler Aerial Tramway at Ranger Peak. You can read some about it here and you can see a video of the ride here. There’s a lot of talking and you can turn down the volume but it gives you an idea of what it was like. Of course, this was over 50 years ago! It’s pretty neat seeing what Dad would have seen! 

I know what you really want to see is what Dad wrote so I’ll try my best to transcribe it here. It may not be exactly as you see it on the post card but I’ll put it the way I think Dad was trying to write it. …

Dearest Darling,

Just a line or two. Hope you are doing fine. Well, Darling, I rode the tramway up the top of the mountain! Boy, you could see every thing, all El Paso and Old Mexico and New Mexico. Will close. Write you a long letter. Lots and lots of love, your sweet Husband.

It’s short and sweet but it’s cool to see that Dad wanted to share what was happening with Mom and wanted her to know he loved her lots and lots!

Here’s the scan of that …

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So, what do you think? Is this a cool find or what? I hope you all have enjoyed this one. I’ll try to write again soon!

Ken

Aloha Al! We Will Meet Again!

Aloha Al! We Will Meet Again!I just wanted to take a moment and post a few things that are on my mind today. I may ramble but I ask that you be patient with me. :-)

I have big plans and I am looking so forward to what I can accomplish this year. I am excited about my blog and web site and how I am able to get my genealogy research organized. Unfortunately, this past week that excitement has taken a backseat.

Just before noon on New Year’s day I got a text from my sister that said my brother-in-law had suffered a massive stroke. Since then I have struggled with all kinds of feelings — sadness, anger, confusion. On Saturday, January 4, just before midnight, we got the call that we knew was coming. My brother-in-law had passed from this life!

I’m a strange kinda person. I struggle with my emotions. I wanted to reach out to my sister and my nieces and just hold them and comfort them. I also shrank back because I did not want to offend anyone. If I were to show everything I was feeling, people would probably think I was unstable! Why would anyone in their normal mind be afraid to reach out to their loved ones and offer them comfort?

I think, perhaps, that there is a little more to it than just that. I think that I am also dealing with the reality that I am having to take a good long look at my own mortality. What? Why would I say this? Let me explain. I was able to deal a little better with my dad’s passing. Even before he started to go downward health-wise, I sat down and talked to my wife and told her that I was ready. I knew my dad was not going to last forever and I had come to accept it. With my mother, I had accepted it. Their death was not a surprise and I took it as the normal “circle of life”.

With my brother-in-law, Al, it was (and is) different. Al is far too young. He’s only 59 and that is only 8 years older than I am. I’ve never had to deal with the death of a sibling or the spouse of a sibling. I mean, this is my generation! How can it be that Al, the one who I have always felt I was closer to than any other “in-law”, is actually gone?

Nevertheless, I have to face reality. I admit that I haven’t talked to Al as much as I should have in the last few years. Being in North Carolina kept me from seeing him very often but I did try to help him occasionally on Farmville! I have many fond memories of Al. I remember when I was still at home and throwing newspapers. We would load them all up in Al’s old brown van and listen to good ol’ ZZ Top – Fandango! I remember when Al worked at Halco Fence & Wire with all the rest of the family. I remember when he would visit and always bring a box of good ol’ Eckrich meats for us to have! I have so many wonderful memories of Al! I thank God that I have those and I can always dial those old memories up!

I remember when I left Paris, Texas in 1986 and moved to Mesquite. It was Susan and Al who took me in and helped me out. He didn’t have to do this, but that was Al. He was always willing to give a hand to someone. Even when my plans for getting my CDL fell through, Al was patient with me while I took a job at Captain D’s and raised the money to get my SL22. Al, you played a big part in me getting back to the Dallas area and because of that, a couple of years later I was able to meet my wonderful wife! Who knows what my life might have been like if Al wasn’t willing to help at that moment!

This Friday we will say goodbye to Al! I’m actually glad that the family has asked that we don’t wear black and that we dress for a celebration of Al’s life. The past few years have not been so good to Al but, in the big picture, he had a wonderful life and he also touched the lives of so many people.

I’m thankful that I am one of those who was touched by him!

Aloha Al! We will meet again and I look forward to that day!

Ken