Have you ever helped uncover a family secret? Well, this week I found myself right in the middle of uncovering one!
I wrote earlier about my finding the database on Family Search for the Arkansas County Marriages, 1837-1957. One of the finds in that database concerned my wife’s grandparents. I knew Haymer and Mary (Faulk) Norton. I knew they had been married for quite a while before their death.
What I didn’t know was that they had been married twice! This isn’t a life changing secret but it is an interesting find! I found two records for their marriage. One was in 1936 and the other was in 1939. I pondered upon the cause for this and the one option that won out for me was that they had probably gotten divorced and then remarried.
So, I presented it all to my wife. My wife is usually unimpressed with any of my genealogy finds. Today, however, she was very attentive to what I was saying. “What does this mean?”, she asked. I told her my theories but she decided to call someone and ask them.
We finally figured out that I was right! Now, does this change anything about their family? Heck no! It’s just something that they didn’t advertise and didn’t offer up. They chose to keep that part of their life private.
Why am I writing about it now? Because they are both no longer living, it seems there is little harm to be done by disclosing it now. Perhaps I am wrong and if so I apologize now. I just want to point out that there are some secrets floating around. Sometimes it’s best to keep them secret and sometimes it is OK to make it known.
So, what do you think? Is it OK to disclose this info with most anyone it would affect gone?