Well, I’ve not had success in the past when I post a question to readers but I still try!
I was wanting to ask for some input about a moral dilemma I have. Without revealing too much information, I just want to ask how you would handle this situation. There is a member of my wife’s family who is a convicted sex offender. This crime hit very close to home for us. Of the many pictures I have “inherited” from her mother (I use that term loosely), there are many pictures of this person . When we were going through these pictures my wife said to throw them all away.
Well, I must admit that I feel the same way but I haven’t done this yet. Why? Because I have the dilemma about who decides what history to keep and what history to throw away. Can we really choose what history to keep and what not to keep? I know it is sickening to say but who am I to decide to blot this person out of the family?
Don’t get me wrong. There was a time that, if I had owned a gun, I would probably be behind bars because I would have shot him without a doubt. Now, years after the events, I’m still mad as hell but I find myself in the position where I have to decided about this.
I don’t have to give him prominence in my research but can I just wipe out all info about him? If we were to start doing that then we wouldn’t be much better than a lot of “historians” today who choose to write what they want, how they want and with their opinions all over it.
So, what say ye? Should I listen to my wife’s feelings (and mine too) or should I err on the side of preserving family history?
It’s a dilemma I am sure many genealogists and family historians (aren’t they one and the same) have run across. What did you do or what would you do?
I really hope I can get some input from the few readers I have. I await your responses eagerly!