Well, if you have been following along with me you know that I have listed some negatives about a possible move to North Carolina and then posted answers to those negatives. Today, I will try to focus on the positives on that possible move.
So, what possible good can come from a move 1300 miles from where you were born and raised and spent most all your life? Well, there are some good things to come from it.
First and foremost, I will be able to see my son, daughter-in-law and grandson as often as I wish to. To me, MY family is the most important thing in my life. Not being able to see my son except for a few occasions the past two years has been very hard. Now he is starting his family and I want so much to be there for him. I think the first time I held Isaiah my heart was won over. I wanted to be near my grandson! What better reason to move than that?
I know I haven’t talked about it much on my blog but there are other positives that can come from this move. It’s been about about 2 and a half years since an event happened in my family that has since caused such a divide that I no longer speak to my two sisters. It’s hard to believe that it has been that long. It’s hard to focus on life when this is happening. You go to a funeral and the tension is so great that people can feel it. A planned family reunion is exciting but what if? Perhaps the best thing to do right now is get as far away as I possibly can and just start over again!
Speaking of starting over again. Sometimes we dig ourselves into holes that we wish we could dig out of but it seems so hard to do so. Well, this would be a fresh start for not only me but also for my wife and my daughters. No, they are not terrible people. You know how life is. You do something or say something without thinking and all of a sudden you wish you could just take it all back. For my youngest daughter it would be a chance to redo that start to high school. For my oldest daughter it would be being free from her brother’s shadow. For my wife, she just wants out of Paris because she is so bored with it. For me, it’s a chance to start over anew and try to form better relationships this time, at work and at home!
I spoke in my last part of this series about health issues. One thing that has plagued my family in Texas is the allergies. When we are in North Carolina our allergies don’t bother us at all! Perhaps the health reasons would be a great reason to move?
I think thought that the best reason for moving is simply because I want to be there for my son and his family. Most people don’t realize it but my wife and I have raised our children as well as we know how and, somewhere along the way we did something right. We do love each other and we thrive off of being together! I’m proud that when I see my son we can give each other a great big hug. It lets me know that he loves me and also lets him know that I love him. Most men would think that was too ackward! Anything that can help to strengthen my family is a great plus to me. Did I also say that we have all fallen in love with Stephanie, my son’s wife?
Really, when we sit down and think about it I can think of more reasons for moving than I can for staying. Yes, I have a good job but it is still just a paycheck to paycheck job! I’ll put it this way, the first 18 years of our marriage we lived on a combined income of 26,000 to 29,000 a year. That’s raising three children and giving them their own computers, their own televisions and games and everything we could. I believe we can make it in North Carolina. We are survivors! We find a way to make ends meet and live happy. In fact, I believe we were probably happier and appreciated things more when we made less money and struggled to survive!
Bottom line is that I really have no arguement for staying here in Paris, Texas! The only worry I have is that I don’t want to betray the trust that my wife and my daughters have put in me. They haven’t flinched even a little. They have such confidence that I will not let them down. I know it may be wrong but I simply feel overwhelmed at how much trust and love my wife and children are showing! I can’t let them down now!
So, I guess the answer will be “YES”! I hope North Carolina can handle a few crazy Texans moving there!
I’ll post one more time on this and give a few details of what we have planned!
Have a great week everyone,