OK, if you haven’t been keeping up, I have been debating whether or not I should make a move to North Carolina. For some people, there is an obvious answer to a question such as this but for me and my family it’s a little different.
The true debate started after we went and visited my grandson in March. It was so hard to tear myself away from there to come home! Since then, we have been having not so serious discussions about moving and have went back and forth on the subject. Now, with the idea that if a move is to be made we would have to do it over the summer, the debate has heated up.
Today, I’ll present some of the negatives about moving to North Carolina. These are all just from my viewpoint.
First, and foremost, is the fact that we are in a recession right now. If you have a job and are happy, you best stay put! Who knows what the economy will be like there? Not only is my job steady, it provides me with the opportunity for overtime any time I feel like it!
Next, what about family? Yes, my son and daughter-in-law and grandson are there but what about my mother, my brothers and sisters and my nieces and nephews and cousins and uncles and aunts? What about my wife’s family? There won’t be anyone else there for us in North Carolina except for my son and his family!
What about my oldest daughter’s senior year in high school? Is it wrong to pull her out and relocate to a new school? She has said she will gladly give it up but should I really put her in that situation?
What about friends we have made here in Paris?
What about the environment? Is it so different in North Carolina that it will effect our health? Will it actually help our health?
What about the fact that all we have ever known is Texas? Does that have anything to do with it?
You know, I’m curious as I sit here typing this up. I wonder if my ancestors did the same thing many years ago? When they moved from Scotland to New York or from New York to Wisconsin or Wisconsin to Texas did they actually sit down and really ponder the good and bad? I know for some their move was dictated by the conditions around them. I can’t really say what it was because I never knew any of them and have not found any stories about them. I am just curious about it, that’s all!
I have made a lot of hard decisions in my life. One of the hardest was late last year when I gave in to the wishes of some of my siblings and told them they could consider me to be dead to them. Not an easy decision but one that has proven to be beneficial to me as I have so much less stress now! However, I feel that no decision I have made would be as big as this decision! To uproot your family and move 1300 miles away to a strange, new area would be quite a task! Of course, I wouldn’t be the first to do such a thing. Just recently my uncle and aunt moved from Grand Saline, Texas to Kennewick, Washington. They had been asked to do so by their daughter and after many years of back and forth they made the move. How do they view it now? They are happier than they have been in years! They are both in their 70s and are content to leave everything here behind. Will that happen for me? Who can say?
I have several cousins who have also moved away from Texas. They are all happy. My niece moved from Texas to San Diego and is there making a life by herself and is happy with her choice. My nephew moved from Texas to New York and lived their by himself and was quite content!
A recession and lack of jobs is a big hurdle! However, 6 years ago when I moved to Paris it was the same way. There were hardly any jobs here and we didn’t have any prospects. We made the move anyway and it worked out well. So, can we do it again?
I guess we will continue to debate the good and bad and see what happens.
I’ll post what is good about the possible move soon. I’ll let this one sink in for now!
Thanks for your time,