Well, last night was an unusual night for me. I’ve done some research in the last year or two on my dad’s side of the family and I knew that my great-aunt had married into the Jaynes family. However, I really didn’t know any of them or had no idea how to get in touch with them. This past Sunday I noticed that there was a Jaynes in the obituaries so I looked a little closer and realized it was my great-aunt’s son, Gavin.
Well, last night they had the visitation night and, after arguing with myself for a while, I decided to go. I didn’t expect to go and start doing a genealogy clinic. That would be so rude. I just wanted to show up and pay my respects and try to meet some of the family.
I froze! Honestly! I didn’t know what to do. I signed the book and I looked around at all these strangers who were most likely folks I would love to get to know and I just froze. I managed to get up the nerve to talk to one or two folks. Most were respectful and they recognized the Spangler name. I just really didn’t know how to act or what to say.
Have any of you ever experienced something like this? My heart was in the right place but was I wrong to even show up? I didn’t know him but, then again, I have never known a lot of the folks in my research. Is there an etiquette to follow in these situations?
As I said, I just wanted to let them know that I do exist and would love to get to know my relatives! I am curious as to how anyone else out there would have handled the situation. Would you have gone? What would you have done?